Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson; Joseph Grenny; Ron McMillan; Al Switzler

Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson; Joseph Grenny; Ron McMillan; Al Switzler

Author:Kerry Patterson; Joseph Grenny; Ron McMillan; Al Switzler
Language: eng
Format: mobi, pdf
ISBN: 9780071772204
Publisher: McGraw-Hill Companies,Inc.
Published: 2012-09-20T07:00:00+00:00


Watch for Three “Clever” Stories

As we begin to piece together why people are doing what they’re doing (or equally important, why we’re doing what we’re doing), with time and experience we become quite good at coming up with explanations that serve us well. Either our stories are completely accurate and propel us in healthy directions, or they’re quite inaccurate but justify our current behavior—making us feel good about ourselves and calling for no need to change.

It’s the second kind of story that routinely gets us into trouble. For example, we move to silence or violence, and then we come up with a perfectly plausible reason for why it’s okay. “Of course I yelled at him. Did you see what he did? He deserved it.” “Hey, don’t be giving me the evil eye. I had no other choice.” We call these imaginative and self-serving concoctions “clever stories.” They’re clever because they allow us to feel good about behaving badly. Better yet, they allow us to feel good about behaving badly even while achieving abysmal results.

When we feel a need to justify our ineffective behavior or disconnect ourselves from our bad results, we tend to tell our stories in three very predictable ways. Learn what the three are and how to counteract them, and you can take control of your emotional life. Fail to do so and you’ll be a victim to the emotions you’re predisposed to have wash over you at crucial times.



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